Screw The Boys Who Pick And Choose When To Answer Your Texts

Romantic relationships are supposed to be reliable. Dependable. Consistent.

Unpredictability and unknown might be sexy at first, but the allure of mixed alerts dies down fast.

You don’t want your targets to rise every time you hear a notification sound and have them decline the second you check the screen because — of course — it’s not him. It’s your best friend or your mother or if your phone company offering you a deal.

In the beginning, the rush of butterflies you obtain every time he actually does text back makes the patiently waiting worth it. You can’t stay mad at him for neglecting you three days in a row, because you are way too busy being excited bout the fact that he finally solved. That he’s in the mood to talk to you. That he recalls you exist.


Instead of calling him out for planning MIA, you treat him even better than before, because you happen to be trying to convince him to stick around this time. You’re in hopes he won’t pull a vanishing act twice in the row. You’re hoping if you’re charming enough, funny plenty of, hot enough, that he will behave differently this time.

Nevertheless, you are fooling yourself. You are only encouraging his bullshit behavior. You’re making him think it’s okay if he ignores you, because you never get mad. You never possibly bring it up. You act like nothing happened and continue to handle him the same, because you are too afraid of burning off him to speak up to him.

He keeps finding and choosing when to answer your texts, because they knows that no matter what time of night he sends some text, he’s going to get a reply. He knows you will never help make him wait the way he keeps making you wait, knowning that makes him feel powerful. That is why he will never prevent swiveling between answering your texts at lightening rate and waiting a week to acknowledge that you texted.


You may tell a lot about a boy by the way he treats anyone over text. You don’t want a relationship where you are regularly questioning what you mean to him. Where you are always questioning whether he is going to treat you as a priority or possibly a second choice on any given day.

You want someone who is likely to reply to your texts as soon as they get the chance to reply. Someone who only makes you wait when there is no other choice. A person who looks forward to talking to you, whether it is over the phone or face-to-face, because you make their day brighter.

The right person can put in effort, even when it comes to something as seemingly small as texting. They will never make you feel neglected, because you will always be it is important on their mind.

Never forget that you deserve attention. You ought to have to be seen. You deserve an answer to a damn text.

In the event that he can’t even give you that much, then he is not worthy of another second of your time.